What to do if life fell apart. What to do if your life is falling apart. And here are the tools to help pass the Saturnian checks.

The key to solving a problem is how you deal with it.

“The problem is not the problem. It all lies in your attitude towards her "

Captain Jack Sparrow

In our life, something rarely goes according to plan. But no matter how our path develops, all difficulties strengthen our character and help to become better. In addition, the problems that we face from time to time help us to appreciate victories even more and make us look at the world around us differently.And today's world dictates completely different rules, which makes it almost impossible not to face a certain type of difficulties.

The key to solving a problem is how you deal with it. Therefore, read our tips that can help you maintain faith in yourself in the next difficult period, when it seems to you that everything around you is falling apart.

11 things to remember when things fall apart

1. Other people's problems are not yours.

If you are used to empathizing with other people, then you probably feel that only you can solve their problems. However, this behavior can lead to complete exhaustion, and others will begin to perceive you as a personal psychologist or therapist who can be called at any time of the day or night. Of course, showing compassion and support for others is very important, but you need to find a balance between helping others and yourself.

2. Don't stop! Everything is going as it should.

Even if you feel like life is just a series of disasters between short periods of tranquility, don't give up! All these difficulties serve to test ourselves, to make us better. They enable us to better cope with future challenging situations and learn valuable life lessons. Without struggle, we will not grow and develop as a person.

3. Pain is temporary.

Any situation does not last forever: be it a difficult breakup, a struggle for financial stability, family quarrels, or something else. Regardless of what you may have experienced before, calm down and remember that only you are the master of your emotions. You can emerge victorious from any situation and turn that experienced pain into an opportunity for growth.

4. Your pain gives you purpose.

Spiritual teachers of the past used to say that people only attract bad situations and pain to themselves if they themselves led a negative lifestyle and littered their minds with corresponding thoughts. This may not always be true, but often any negative situation can be seen as a valuable tool for our own learning and experience for testing ourselves.

5. Take time for prayer or positive energy.

Regardless of what you may be facing, try to look at the better side of the situation and look to your angels or spirit guides for higher wisdom. They will help ease your burden or anxiety by giving you new energy so you can deal with it all. Prayer will remind you that everything on Earth lends itself to complex mysterious and cosmic factors that we cannot always understand.

6. Worry creates more problems, and faith transforms.

No amount of worry will change the situation. This will only cause you more pain and increase the impact of negative energy, creating more obstacles in your life. Keep a positive mindset and hope that the Universe has rewarded you with a test in order to pass it and become better.

7. Perhaps you should do exactly what you are afraid to do.

The only way to stimulate personal growth is to leave your comfort zone behind. Sometimes, you need to check and test your limits to find out how hardy you are and to discover something new in yourself. You can dig deep into yourself a new passion and those things that you did not even think about and did not know before. Conquer your fears and get better.

8. Bad days allow you to appreciate the good even more.

Without bad days, you would not even know that there are good ones, because everything would turn into one gray solid mass. The funniest thing in life is that we cannot know pleasure without pain, sadness, struggle, etc. We live in a dualistic reality, that is, we experience opposite sides of the same spectrum in most life cases. Appreciate the experiences this world has to offer, because often the worst is your best side.

9. Remember that you have sufficient influence and power over your life.

You don't have to fall victim to your circumstances or give up. You are in complete control of your life and can easily turn a bad situation into a good one. Keep in mind that rainbows only appear after rain, so you must weather the storm to live happily later on.

10. If you allow yourself to think negatively, then again put yourself in front of others as a victim.

11. Don't worry, we all have ups and downs.

Just look ahead and keep going. The next time you feel overwhelmed by the pressures of modern life, just remember that you and millions of others are in the same position. The best thing you can and should do is to actively participate in your life and do what you love, what you love without tremendous pressure.

Keep calm and keep going

"The most important decision you can make is to be in a good mood."

Below are three letters - one addressed to me (with the permission of the author and with minor changes) and two simply found on the Internet as living examples, you will surely see analogies and even similar phrases, plus the identity of the problem. And when there is a problem, you need to SEARCH FOR ITS SOLUTION.

what is going on now? Collapsing ALLEEEEEE…. and it’s hard without it. My son has been seriously ill since he was 5 years old - I have seen so much death - and it is still very difficult in all corners of life….

It's just broken. Therefore, I wrote. All around the pain and very hard. Although I try to survive-…. one friend says, only one of my life can make a movie ...

Maybe look at my map? ... I've been fighting for my son's life for 25 years. Husband has lost EVERYTHING !! -because we pay our money for treatment-we are not citizens-. The man-who-seemed-all-well-suddenly left. Suddenly. The husband lost his job. We were announced deportation. In short, WHERE ?? FIND these forces - about which you write…. I will try… Very….

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Hello, I am 22 years old, I am married, I have a wonderful daughter. It all started from the moment I got pregnant. My husband and I just got married then. everything was fine, but one day it came crisis, my husband was fired from his job. I worked as long as I could, then went on maternity leave. She gave birth to a child, and then the constant moving began. there were 5 of them in the last year. My husband seemed to work, but somehow everything did not work out and he decided to start entrepreneurial activity. at first everything seemed to work out, and then everything got worse ... then they owed the bank a large sum, now they are suing. not long ago I found out that I was pregnant again. Of course, I understood that it was not the right time, but I was still very happy. the husband was not so positive. then bedding began. called an ambulance, the hospital said that the child has long been dead ... it was not just a blow! They did a cleaning ... Now a month has passed, I kind of calmed down. but with money everything is bad. and my husband decided to work in a taxi and today, on the first day, lost all documents and money…

I don't know how to continue to live and what to do, this is the last straw, I can't even cry anymore, I sit and giggle stupidly. and the worst thing is that I am afraid of the future, because this is far from a complete list of what happened to me over the past two years ...

Help me please! How to find the strength to survive all this? how to start over

Thank you in advance…..

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what to do if life collapses ?!

my interest in life and the struggle for a bright future is fading away, I just have already resigned myself to the fact that I am always alone (for a rather long period of my life) .. And in recent years, in general, everything went in a bad direction, now I am unemployed, I owe the bank a large sum, crashed a car today….

i'm just tired, tired of life, I can't even cry, because I'm tired ... I'm tired of these problems ... the only thing that keeps me in this world is that I love my parents .. But for some reason it seems to me that this will not be a hindrance to me soon, I can’t go on like this ... tell me what to do?

EVERYONE HAS OWN SANTA BARBAR

In all these three messages, we see that problems roll like a snowball and at some point some unpleasant event occurs (note - non-fatal!) And the person "breaks down", that is, reaches the limit of patience and catharsis occurs. Or the peak of the development cycle of his crisis situation.

First, a person is deeply inside a situation that seems to him a dead end. Looking from the outside, we don't think so. After all, it is not for nothing that they say that you need to "rise above" in order to see the whole picture or in a wider perspective. It’s not so bad.

For example, we often compare ourselves to others - especially when they have something better or have something that we do not have and this plunges us into negative feelings of self-pity, envy, sadness, etc.

In this situation of "total collapse" as a piece of advice, you can also offer to compare your own misfortunes with the misfortunes of others in order to feel better.

For example, some women do not have husbands and have to take care of themselves and their children, earn money, solve problems, make decisions, etc.

Some people don't have a car and have to use public transport. Someone has no money to afford to go abroad or just to the sea, etc. Someone has no health, body parts, sight and hearing, parents, children, housing, etc.

Look at Nik Vuychich - if it seems to you that everything is "bad" or you have been cheated in something. He has neither arms nor legs, but he was able to cope with depression and despair and even became rich, married a young beauty who gave birth to his daughter. He is a living motivation “not to be a victim”.



Are you still feeling bad? And do you feel left out?

Sometimes it seems to us that our life is like "Santa Barbara", with many difficult moments, the first heroine even wrote that it is possible to make a film in her life, but look around - look at the lives of the people around you, delve into their stories. Each is its own movie, its own unique script, its own series and its own failures and failures. Who among us has not lost his job? Raise your hands. Which one of us has not been abandoned by a loved one? Are there hands up? Who has not experienced financial difficulties, major losses, disasters, injuries and accidents? I think that all readers of this article are already sitting with their hands up. Write if this is not the case.

I myself thought for a long time that my sphere of personal relationships is solid Santa Barbara and that there is no more unfortunate girl in the world, and then I saw that others have things that are not so, much more dramatic and more difficult.

Conclusion: your life is the same as hundreds and thousands of others, in something better, in something worse, and YOU ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO BE GRATEFUL.

Advice: try to help yourself get out of the victim state, in which you are now, to the state of the creator of your life or someone who is able to get out of this impasse, by changing your attitude to what is happening and changing the focus of attention from focusing on "everything is bad" to focusing on what you want instead and how to achieve it.

In no way do I want to urge you to ignore the problem, I ask you to drop its importance, reorient your focus. And this is already the first step towards its solution.

They say that God cannot afford trials - we are able to get out of difficult situations, the main thing is to concentrate and get together. There are many examples when people got out of the most unthinkable situations, help came at the very last moment and in the most wonderful way. But you need to ask about it - God, the Highest.

In moments of despair - go to Him and pray for help, submit your situation to Him for consideration. Say what you want, thank and promise to accept everything as His will, humbly. And whatever happens next, just live by accepting. You can't sew a severed leg back - that's why sometimes you need to learn to walk with a prosthesis and live in new conditions. Some even manage to become Olympic champions in this state. We always have a choice - to lie and "die", to give up and despair, to fight and win.

Sometimes it seems to us that life is over and there is no point in living on, hope dies, but in fact, this is not the end of life, this is the end of one of its chapters and a new chapter opens further. Let there be something different in it, but this is life, a different plot, a different scenario, and we have everything to write the best scenario in this chapter.

CLASSICS OF THE GENRE

The events that are generally recognized as the most negative are classics of the genre - divorce, loss of work and livelihood, loss of valuable things, death of loved ones and dear people, health problems, injuries and accidents.

Any person is experiencing a crisis, stress, depression, and so on negative feelings at this time, but you can react to them in different ways, for someone it will be the “end of life”, and for someone “the beginning of a new one”. From the success stories of famous, rich and successful people, we can learn that they also had to go through such "bifurcation points" (the moment of no return), that is, difficult moments when everything collapsed for them, there were losses and such crises, but precisely from which was the starting point of their future success.

One of the major information businessmen said that his girlfriend left him, after which he finally got off the couch and started his own business. Now he is rich and there was another girl whom he happily married. Another famous blogger and trainer shared the story that a major car accident caused her to drastically change her life, quit a prestigious job, leave a foreign country, reflect on the future, return to the country and start her online training business. And there are millions of such stories. Because this is how the universe works. We develop through crises.

How else can we be awakened or pulled out of our usual routine, how can we induce evolution and development? The universe knocks on windows and doors, and if we do not hear, then on the head ... so that we finally took their strength and have done something in their life; or simply changed something, perhaps long desired, but ignored; or simply followed their own Path, from which they deviated, etc.

Metaphorically, a comparison can be made - when a mother calls her child, but she does not hear or ignores the call, then the parent screams louder or even approaches and uses brute force in order to attract attention, so Our Heavenly Father calls, cries and sometimes does what something to draw our attention to ourselves.

And yes, crisis situations are a close path to God, because many of us remember His existence only in difficult moments. And this is a great chance - to Turn to Him.

Conclusion: crisis situations draw your attention to Yourself, Truth and the Highest. Perhaps the time has come for a change in your life and you shouldn't resist it. It may be time to take your Power. Perhaps this is a test of strength (about this below in the Astrological interpretation of events).

Advice: try to change your attitude to what is happening, reorient yourself from the end to a new beginning, be flexible and do not fall into despair - there is a way out of ANY SITUATION, even yours.

Well, judge for yourself - you lost your job, you will definitely find another one, you just need to make an effort and look for it properly. Have suffered material damage, say "Thank you, Lord, for taking the money." Left beloved, learn to live in a romance with yourself and life.


Does the world seem to be crumbling? This is not true! He's just rebuilding. And maybe for you!

IN this article I described the Tao of Pluto and offered an exercise for getting out of the plutonic depression - Pluto is associated with death and loss, deep transformations and rebirth. In this exercise, you need to lie down in a bath, plunging headlong into the water - a symbolic immersion to the bottom, the moment of "death" and emerge "reborn". When you get to the bottom of life, you have a chance to kick off properly with your feet and begin to float - in the Tao of Pluto it is just about diving and diving into the depths.

ASTROCAUSE AND THE RETURN OF SATURN

If you look at such destructive situations from an astrological point of view, then here we are dealing with life and planetary cycles.

Each planet has its own cycle, for example, the cycle of the Moon, which reflects the structure of life processes - everything has a birth, development, culmination and decline / death / end. At the moment when several negative plots coincide in life at once (there are also positive ones, but we rarely mark it as something significant) - the climax comes, the full moon of life. After some time, there will be a recession.

On full moons, you usually need to part with something that has outlived your own, these are times of heightened emotionality and the difficulty of controlling it. A little later, you look at what happened with much less tragedy.

In these moments, you need to allow yourself to live your emotions.

Saturn has long cycles, a full one is about 29-30 years and intermediate seven years. Saturn is considered a harsh planet, and I often cite an association with him in the form of Frost from the fairy tale of the same name, when he tested the strength of the main characters, asking them "is it warm for them" and then presented them according to the test. Likewise, life (Saturn) tests how humble, strong, wise, ready to take responsibility for your life and become its Authors.

Here is the woman who wrote the first letter, just experiencing the Second Saturn Return (occurs around the age of 59-60). This is the time of another restructuring of life, challenges of fate, tests and great opportunities with the task of determining the long-term goals of their further development. We perceive this time as a time of crises, we can be sad, fall into despair, but Saturn is a strict and just Teacher, he will bestow us in the future, but after a difficult period of changes and restructuring.

Saturn asks to engage in self-digging and self-knowledge, go through the process of re-inventing ourselves and our ways of life. We can face something that doesn't work in our life, restrictions and obstacles, see gaps, weaknesses. Saturn slows us down so that we can look with a firm and cold gaze at the reality we have built in our lives and find new ways and ways to become a true author - an authority - in our lives. We have another chance to become who we really are.

In mythology, Saturn is associated with the harvest, with the reward for the efforts made. If we are willing to wait, work, persist. Saturn is a strict Teacher and he asks to clean up his psychological and physical rubbish and dig up the soil (of our psyche) before we plant new seeds (of new intentions / new life). In the times of the Return, we have a chance for real change and life-renewing rewards. This is truly a planet of opportunity.

During the Second Return comes the wisdom of the Elder. Our personal and public safety is under review. This is a difficult time and time for harvesting, the results of work over the past years.

We ask a lot of questions at this time. We cannot repeat past mistakes. We are taking the first steps towards new beginnings.

Saturn often asks "Whose movie am I in?" and challenges to be a director and screenwriter. It would be too easy to read the lines of a famous script. Instead, we must become Self Authors and become true Authors of our lives.

We need to rewrite our life script. It's not always easy, our life is full of people and situations that no longer reflect our essence. The human unconscious often creates situations that challenge us. It seems to be hiring other people to play certain roles in our life story - this one will be the boss, this one the victim, and this one the unfaithful lover. Saturnian post-checks in life are associated with the moments when these people play their roles and it is time to adjust their life script. We must take our projections back and look at the drama of our lives as OUR responsibility. And don't blame anyone.

During the Second Return, Saturn calls for concrete action in the real world, but this is all very subtle. If we don't do what needs to be done, we may no longer have a second chance. If you are putting off checking your health, it may be too late. If you don't admit to yourself that “my job is killing me, but I have to wait until retirement,” it may actually kill you.

As the body ages, fatigue and depression grow, the body is no longer an object of pride, and then the Spirit has a chance to come forward. Some old habits may show their heads to be chopped off. You may be asking yourself the question "why should I deal with this issue again?" and the answer is "because you almost solved it." You are now wiser and more mature about things. With the gift of wisdom, you complete unfinished business and situations.

At this time, you need to clean the very foundations - the basements of your existence and look at your non-idealizations, let illusions go away. Now is the time to slow down and allow pleasant things to come into your life.

We can return to what gives the fruits of our experience - a certain project, to what we can do well and even better.

And here are the tools to help pass the Saturnian tests:

1 Be discern (discern)

Since I am wiser today than I was a year ago and I know much more, I can wisely use elections based on clarity of intentions. Dream of a future with a clearly visible path between the trees. "Know thyself" and "Nothing superfluous" - the inscriptions from the Delphic temple are clearly for me. Now it is necessary to retreat from the excesses of youth and clearly understand what I can and cannot do.

2 Be cordial

Take the courage to ask knowledgeable people for advice. And at home: how much I project my insecurities and fears into the surrounding reality, making my life unhappy, unable to take responsibility and heartily perceive others.

3 Go deeper

"All or nothing" is a rather superficial quick decision, but Saturn does not like "quick". No quick decisions and things done in a hurry! It is better to withstand the tension of rending contradictions and internal conflicts until a new shaping of the idea emerges. And only then, it's time to get out of your usual comfort zone and do it! Dig deeper - you will find precious water at the very bottom!

4 Take action!

In the end, Saturn rewards those who do and depresses those who procrastinate from day to day.

Ironically - but while we are waiting (warm and good weather for spring - good weather by the sea :)) Saturn is testing us for the strength of our faith - rebirth and rebirth. We are like seeds on a windowsill, waiting for seedlings and watering. And in due time we must act, dig deep, separate weeds from emerging flowers ..

... everything comes in due time ..

We dwelt in great detail on the Saturn Return cycle (especially for my reader who asked the question), but there are also many other cycles - for example, the opposition of Uranus and the square of Neptune at the age of about 40-42 years, called the Middle Age Crisis, Jupiter Return - occurs every 12 years old and also marks the beginning and end of certain milestones in life, an upgrade in lifestyle. Personal cycles can be found at consultations with astrologers, and everyone has their own working astroinfluences in difficult moments of life.

Conclusion: the events taking place are influenced by planetary, cosmic, etc. cycles.

Tip: if you need support in times of crisis, contact professional therapists (psychologists, astrologers, etc.) and support groups, ask friends and family for help. They will surely help you regain lost hope.


When it seems that everything in life is crumbling ...
start thinking about what to build on the vacant space. Osho

Understand that life is not a straight line or a set of specific time periods. Don't worry if you couldn't graduate from school, but you got married, found a job supporting you, started a family, earn money and live comfortably. It is no less good if you have finished it and you know that if before the age of 25 you did not get married, did not take the position of a leader and are simply unhappy, then no one will judge you. You have the right to drop all stereotypes and find something that brings you pleasure. You have time and it seems to me that we often forget about it. Immediately after leaving school, we make a choice of a future profession, because the most correct thing to do people think is to enter a university. After receiving a master's degree, we immediately look for a job, even if we do not like the education we received, because we have invested our time in it. And now we go to work every day, because we have to support ourselves. We go step by step, thinking that by doing so, we are ticking certain boxes, but one day we wake up feeling depressed, stressed and pressured, although we do not know why.

1. Your life collapses when you start to follow someone else's path

Why strive so hard to accelerate the development of our relations? What is the reason for the attractiveness of the idea of \u200b\u200bbecoming someone and not someone? Love that is a consequence of the desire for comfort, the desire to avoid lonely nights and to feel attention to yourself, although it has nothing to do with passion, will never become the same love that will inspire you, waking up at 6 in the morning, turn on your side and tenderly hug your soul mate. Try to discover true love that motivates you to get better, an intimacy that is so rare today. Don't say out loud anymore that you don't want to be alone. Live alone, eat alone, go on dates, but sleep alone, and gradually you will know yourself. You will begin to evolve, find sources of inspiration, control your dreams and beliefs. And when on your way meets the one or the same, you will stop doubting your feelings and yourself. Just wait. You must wait, fight for this person and try for him, if you have already found him. After all, it is love that is the most beautiful feeling that your heart can know.

2. Your life is crumbling if you live in the past

Certain things will take place in your life: breakups, uncertainty, feelings of worthlessness and insignificance. Some memories and words will live in your heart forever. But they should not be allowed to determine your future - they are nothing more than words and events. If you allow every negative event to change your vision of yourself, then the whole world will begin to seem bad to you. You will begin to blame yourself because you have not achieved your cherished promotion in the past. You will lose your love, thinking that your partner left you because of your imperfection, and now you are afraid to believe another person who convinces you otherwise. So the vicious circle is closed and a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy appears. If you do not step over what happened and said earlier, through your past feelings, you will get a distorted vision of the future. In the end, you will find eternal excuses, worries and nourishment of what could have been avoided.

3. Your life is crumbling due to eternal comparisons

Your value does not change depending on how many people subscribed to your page on social networks. The same goes for your happiness, intelligence and compassion - they are in no way dependent on the volume of your bank savings. A person whose fortune is much larger than yours cannot be called more worthy or better than you. We are fixated on things that other people like, to whom our acquaintances subscribe, and this is how not only our life is spoiled, but our personality is also destroyed. Inside such a dependent person, the need to feel important arises, and often we often achieve this at the expense of others.

4. Your life is crumbling due to your desensitization

Almost every one of us is afraid to say too much, to know the full depth of feelings and to show people how important they are to us. But caring and obsession are not synonymous. If you show your neighbor how special he is to you, you will reveal your vulnerability to him. But there is nothing to be ashamed of. The very moment when you completely open your heart to someone dear to you, there is something incredibly beautiful and even magical. Show your loved one how much inspiration she brings to you. Tell your mom in front of your friends that you love her. Don't stop being open. Share your feelings, be more courageous in choosing your love and in how you love. This is courage.

5. Your life is crumbling due to the limitlessness of your patience

The man should have been happy that he was alive. By agreeing to anything that is even slightly less than what you want, you thereby harm your potential. As a result, you are deceiving yourself and the whole world. But right now, the next Michelangelo may be sitting somewhere, who froze behind MacBook and spends his time writing out an invoice to buy stationery, because it helps him pay his bills, it does not require effort and he is ready to put up with such work. Don't be the same, don't spoil your life. Work and personal life are not independent from each other and are closely intertwined. Everyone should strive to find exciting work and incredible love. And this is the only way to become truly happy.

What to do when everything is bad - how to act in a difficult period of life, when it seems that everything is falling apart.

Everyone has periods in life when everything collapses, falls out of hand and everything only gets worse.

Doors close before you, friends turn away, life turns into hell. And it seems that nothing good just can be. It could only get worse. How to act and how to behave in this difficult period of the "black strip"?

What to do when things are really bad

Step 1 - don't panic or get discouraged

The more we panic, the more mistakes we make, worsening our situation. Sadness and depression take away the strength to deal with circumstances. Keeping cool is difficult, but it will be the surest thing to do under the circumstances.

Step 2 - Do not fight with anyone

During such periods, everyone usually has nerves on the side-altar and it is easy to break on someone. But in order not to remain alone in difficult times, it is better not to quarrel with your friends and family if possible, they will be very useful to you. You should not also argue with the people you meet on the street, bus, etc., they simply respond to your negative attitude towards life. Treat people as condescending and understanding as possible. This will protect you from a lot of unpleasant moments.

Step 3 - keep smiling

Of course, everything goes to hell, but this does not mean that life ends. It just happens that you have to go through. Smiling, even the most artificial one, will help you cope with your emotional state. The fact is that the position of the facial muscles is interconnected with the release of certain hormones in our body. That is, when serotonin is produced in our body, we involuntarily begin to smile, no matter how hard we try to restrain ourselves. You can also achieve the opposite success. If you put on even the most artificial smile on your face and maintain this position for 5-10 minutes, you will notice that your mood will improve significantly. Perhaps this will not clarify your position, but it will obviously be easier to think.

Step 4 - Believe that things will get better

As strange as it may sound in our materialistic time, faith is half the way to success. Believe me, it's not enough either. Believing in something, without noticing it yourself, you form a kind of energy impulse that is thrown into the outside world. This impulse will definitely return to you in the form of a random decision, advice or assistant. This is how the special energy of our consciousness works, since the world is a huge organism in which everything is interconnected and mutually attractive.

Step 5 - Resign yourself and take what is happening for granted

It is sometimes very difficult for us to understand what is happening in the right light. We simply cannot know why something that we generally liked and liked collapses. Why are such dramatic changes taking place? However, in order to build something more durable and large, first of all, you should destroy the old, no matter how unpleasant this fact may seem to us.

Think back to your youth. How we wanted something and how angry we were when we could not get it or do it. Remember how grateful you were later when you realized what consequences all this could lead to. But this realization does not come immediately to regret. It takes time and patience. Therefore, no matter how difficult and bitter it is for you now, just know that there are logical reasons for this.

Even after the worst storm, the sun always comes out. The main thing is to remember this and not to forget during the very middle of the abyss of unpleasant events.

“The problem is not the problem. It all lies in your attitude towards her "

Captain Jack Sparrow

In our life, something rarely goes according to plan. But no matter how our path develops, all difficulties strengthen our character and help to become better. In addition, the problems that we face from time to time help us to appreciate victories even more and make us look at the world around us differently.And today's world dictates completely different rules, which makes it almost impossible not to face a certain type of difficulties.

The key to solving a problem is how you deal with it. Therefore, read our tips that can help you maintain faith in yourself in the next difficult period, when it seems to you that everything around you is falling apart.

11 things to remember when things fall apart

1. Other people's problems are not yours.

If you are used to empathizing with other people, then you probably feel that only you can solve their problems. However, this behavior can lead to complete exhaustion, and others will begin to perceive you as a personal psychologist or therapist who can be called at any time of the day or night. Of course, showing compassion and support for others is very important, but you need to find a balance between helping others and yourself.

2. Don't stop! Everything is going as it should.

Even if you feel like life is just a series of disasters between short periods of tranquility, don't give up! All these difficulties serve to test ourselves, to make us better. They enable us to better cope with future challenging situations and learn valuable life lessons. Without struggle, we will not grow and develop as a person.

3. Pain is temporary.

Any situation does not last forever: be it a difficult breakup, a struggle for financial stability, family quarrels, or something else. Regardless of what you may have experienced before, calm down and remember that only you are the master of your emotions. You can emerge victorious from any situation and turn that experienced pain into an opportunity for growth.

4. Your pain gives you purpose.

Spiritual teachers of the past used to say that people only attract bad situations and pain to themselves if they themselves led a negative lifestyle and littered their minds with corresponding thoughts. This may not always be true, but often any negative situation can be seen as a valuable tool for our own learning and experience for testing ourselves.

5. Take time for prayer or positive energy.

Regardless of what you may be facing, try to look at the better side of the situation and look to your angels or spirit guides for higher wisdom. They will help ease your burden or anxiety by giving you new energy so you can deal with it all. Prayer will remind you that everything on Earth lends itself to complex mysterious and cosmic factors that we cannot always understand.

6. Worry creates more problems, and faith transforms.

No amount of worry will change the situation. This will only cause you more pain and increase the impact of negative energy, creating more obstacles in your life. Keep a positive mindset and hope that the Universe has rewarded you with a test in order to pass it and become better.

7. Perhaps you should do exactly what you are afraid to do.

The only way to stimulate personal growth is to leave your comfort zone behind. Sometimes, you need to check and test your limits to find out how hardy you are and to discover something new in yourself. You can dig deep into yourself a new passion and those things that you did not even think about and did not know before. Conquer your fears and get better.

8. Bad days allow you to appreciate the good even more.

Without bad days, you would not even know that there are good ones, because everything would turn into one gray solid mass. The funniest thing in life is that we cannot know pleasure without pain, sadness, struggle, etc. We live in a dualistic reality, that is, we experience opposite sides of the same spectrum in most life cases. Appreciate the experiences this world has to offer, because often the worst is your best side.

9. Remember that you have sufficient influence and power over your life.

You don't have to fall victim to your circumstances or give up. You are in complete control of your life and can easily turn a bad situation into a good one. Keep in mind that rainbows only appear after rain, so you must weather the storm to live happily later on.

10. If you allow yourself to think negatively, then again put yourself in front of others as a victim.

11. Don't worry, we all have ups and downs.

Just look ahead and keep going. The next time you feel overwhelmed by the pressures of modern life, just remember that you and millions of others are in the same position. The best thing you can and should do is to actively participate in your life and do what you love, what you love without tremendous pressure.

Keep calm and keep going

"The most important decision you can make is to be in a good mood."

Below are three letters - one addressed to me (with the permission of the author and with minor changes) and two simply found on the Internet as living examples, you will surely see analogies and even similar phrases, plus the identity of the problem. And when there is a problem, you need to SEARCH FOR ITS SOLUTION.

what is going on now? Collapsing ALLEEEEEE…. and it’s hard without it. My son has been seriously ill since he was 5 years old - I have seen so much death - and it is still very difficult in all corners of life….

It's just broken. Therefore, I wrote. All around the pain and very hard. Although I try to survive-…. one friend says, only one of my life can make a movie ...

Maybe look at my map? ... I've been fighting for my son's life for 25 years. Husband has lost EVERYTHING !! -because we pay our money for treatment, we are not citizens. The man-who-seemed-all-well-suddenly left. Suddenly. The husband lost his job. We were announced deportation. In short, WHERE ?? FIND these forces - about which you write…. I will try… Very….

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Hello, I'm 22 years old, I'm married, I have a wonderful daughter. It all started from the moment I got pregnant. My husband and I just got married then. everything was fine, but one day there was a crisis, my husband was fired from his job. I worked as long as I could, then went on maternity leave.

She gave birth to a child, and then the constant moving began. there were 5 of them in the last year.

The husband seemed to be working, but somehow everything did not work out and he decided to start entrepreneurial activities. at first everything seemed to work out, and then everything got worse ... then they owed the bank a large sum, now they are suing. not long ago I found out that I was pregnant again.

Of course, I understood that it was not the right time, but I was still very happy. the husband was not so positive. then bedding began. called an ambulance, the hospital said that the child has long been dead ... it was not just a blow! Did the cleaning ...

Now a month has passed, I kind of calmed down. but money is bad. and my husband decided to work in a taxi and today, on the first day, lost all documents and money ...

I don't know how to continue to live and what to do, this is the last straw, I can't even cry anymore, I sit and giggle stupidly. and the worst thing is that I am afraid of the future, because this is far from a complete list of what happened to me over the past two years ...

Help me please! How to find the strength to survive all this? how to start over

Thank you in advance…..

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what to do if life collapses ?!

my interest in life and the struggle for a bright future is fading away, I just have already resigned myself to the fact that I am always alone (for a rather long period of my life) .. And in recent years, in general, everything went in a bad direction, now I am unemployed, I owe the bank a large sum, crashed a car today….

i'm just tired, tired of life, I can't even cry, because I'm tired ... I'm tired of these problems ... the only thing that keeps me in this world is that I love my parents .. But for some reason it seems to me that this will not be a hindrance to me soon, I can’t go on like this ... tell me what to do?

EVERYONE HAS OWN SANTA BARBAR

In all these three messages, we see that problems roll like a snowball and at some point some unpleasant event occurs (note - non-fatal!) And the person "breaks down", that is, reaches the limit of patience and catharsis occurs. Or the peak of the development cycle of his crisis situation.

First, a person is deeply inside a situation that seems to him a dead end. Looking from the outside, we don't think so. After all, it is not for nothing that they say that you need to "rise above" in order to see the whole picture or in a wider perspective. It’s not so bad.

For example, we often compare ourselves to others - especially when they have something better or have something that we do not have and this plunges us into negative feelings of self-pity, envy, sadness, etc.

In this situation of "total collapse" as a piece of advice, you can also offer to compare your own misfortunes with the misfortunes of others in order to feel better.

For example, some women do not have husbands and have to take care of themselves and their children, earn money, solve problems, make decisions, etc.

Some people don't have a car and have to use public transport. Someone has no money to afford to go abroad or just to the sea, etc. Someone has no health, body parts, sight and hearing, parents, children, housing, etc.

Look at Nik Vuychich - if it seems to you that everything is "bad" or you have been cheated in something. He has neither arms nor legs, but he was able to cope with depression and despair and even became rich, married a young beauty who gave birth to his daughter. He is a living motivation “not to be a victim”.

Are you still feeling bad? And do you feel left out?

Sometimes it seems to us that our life is like "Santa Barbara", with many difficult moments, the first heroine even wrote that she could make a film in her life, but look around - look at the lives of the people around you, delve into their stories. Each is its own movie, its own unique script, its own series and its own failures and failures.

Who among us has not lost his job?

Raise your hands. Which one of us has not been abandoned by a loved one? Are there hands up? Who has not experienced financial difficulties, major losses, disasters, injuries and accidents? I think that all readers of this article are already sitting with their hands up. Write if this is not the case.

I myself thought for a long time that my sphere of personal relationships is solid Santa Barbara and that there is no more unfortunate girl in the world, and then I saw that others have things that are not so, much more dramatic and more difficult.

Conclusion: your life is the same as hundreds and thousands of others, in something better, in something worse, and YOU ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO BE GRATEFUL.

Advice: try to help yourself get out of the state of victim, in which you are now, to the state of the creator of your life or someone who is able to get out of this impasse, by changing your attitude to what is happening and changing the perspective of attention from focusing on "everything is bad" to focusing on what you want instead and how to achieve it.

In no way do I want to urge you to ignore the problem, I ask you to drop its importance, reorient your focus. And this is already the first step towards its solution.

They say that God cannot afford trials - we are able to get out of difficult situations, the main thing is to concentrate and get together. There are many examples when people got out of the most unthinkable situations, help came at the very last moment and in the most wonderful way. But you need to ask about it - God, the Highest.

In moments of despair - go to Him and pray for help, submit your situation to Him for consideration. Say what you want, thank and promise to accept everything as His will, humbly. And whatever happens next, just live by accepting.

You can't sew a severed leg back - that's why sometimes you need to learn to walk with a prosthesis and live in new conditions. Some even manage to become Olympic champions in this state. We always have a choice - to lie and "die", to give up and despair, to fight and win.

Sometimes it seems to us that life is over and there is no point in living on, hope is dying, but in fact, this is not the end of life, this is the end of one of its chapters and a new chapter opens further. Let there be something different in it, but this is life, a different plot, a different scenario, and we have everything to write the best scenario in this chapter.

CLASSICS OF THE GENRE

The events that are generally recognized as the most negative are classics of the genre - divorce, loss of work and livelihood, loss of valuable things, death of loved ones and dear people, health problems, injuries and accidents.

Any person at this time experiences a crisis, stress, depression and other negative feelings, but you can react to them in different ways, for some it will be the “end of life”, but for someone “the beginning of a new one”.

From the success stories of famous, rich and successful people, we can learn that they also had to go through such "bifurcation points" (the moment of no return), that is, difficult moments when everything collapsed for them, there were losses and such crises, but precisely from which was the starting point of their future success.

One of the major information businessmen said that his girlfriend left him, after which he finally got off the couch and started his own business. Now he is rich and there was another girl whom he happily married.

Another famous blogger and trainer shared the story that a major car accident caused her to drastically change her life, quit a prestigious job, leave a foreign country, reflect on the future, return to the country and start her online training business.

And there are millions of such stories. Because this is how the universe works. We develop through crises.

How else can you wake us up or pull us out of our usual routine, how can we induce evolution and development? The Universe knocks on windows and doors, and if we do not hear, then on the head ... so that we finally take our power and do something in our life; or simply changed something, perhaps long desired, but ignored; or simply followed their own Path, from which they deviated, etc.

Metaphorically, a comparison can be made - when a mother calls her child, but she does not hear or ignores the call, then the parent screams louder or even approaches and uses brute force in order to attract attention, so Our Heavenly Father calls, shouts and sometimes does what something to draw our attention to ourselves.

And yes, crisis situations are a close path to God, because many of us remember His existence only in difficult moments. And this is a great chance - to Turn to Him.

Conclusion: crisis situations draw your attention to Yourself, Truth and the Highest. Perhaps the time has come for a change in your life and you shouldn't resist it. It may be time to take your Power. Perhaps this is a test of strength (about this below in the Astrological interpretation of events).

Advice: try to change your attitude towards the outgoing, reorient yourself from the end to a new beginning, be flexible and do not fall into despair - there is a way out of ANY SITUATION, even yours.

Well, judge for yourself - you lost your job, you will definitely find another one, you just need to make an effort and look for it properly. Have suffered material damage, say "Thank you, Lord, for taking the money." Left beloved, learn to live in a romance with yourself and life.

Does the world seem to be crumbling? This is not true! He's just rebuilding. And maybe for you!

In this article, I described the Tao of Pluto and suggested an exercise for getting out of the plutonic depression - Pluto is associated with death and loss, deep transformations and rebirth.

In this exercise, you need to lie down in a bath, plunging headlong into the water - a symbolic immersion to the bottom, the moment of "death" and emerge "reborn".

When you get to the bottom of life, you have a chance to kick off properly with your feet and begin to float - in the Tao of Pluto it is just about diving and diving into the depths.

ASTROCAUSE AND THE RETURN OF SATURN

If you look at such destructive situations from an astrological point of view, then here we are dealing with life and planetary cycles.

Each planet has its own cycle, for example, the cycle of the Moon, which reflects the structure of life processes - everything has a birth, development, culmination and decline / death / end.

At that moment when several negative plots coincide in life at once (there are also positive ones, but we rarely mark it as something significant) - the climax comes, the full moon of life. After some time, there will be a recession.

On full moons, you usually need to part with something that has outlived your own, these are times of heightened emotionality and the difficulty of controlling it. A little later, you look at what happened with much less tragedy.

In these moments, you need to allow yourself to live your emotions.

Saturn has long cycles, a full one is about 29-30 years and intermediate seven years. Saturn is considered a harsh planet, and I often bring an association with him in the form of Frost from the fairy tale of the same name, when he tested the strength of the main characters, asking them "if they are warm" and then presented them according to the test.

Likewise, life (Saturn) tests how humble, strong, wise, ready to take responsibility for your life and become its Authors.

Here is the woman who wrote the first letter, just experiencing the Second Saturn Return (occurs around the age of 59-60).

This is the time of another restructuring of life, challenges of fate, tests and great opportunities with the task of determining the long-term goals of their further development.

We perceive this time as a time of crises, we can be sad, fall into despair, but Saturn is a strict and fair Teacher, he will bestow us in the future, but after a difficult period of changes and restructuring.

Saturn asks to engage in self-digging and self-knowledge, go through the process of re-inventing ourselves and our ways of life. We can face something that does not work in our life, restrictions and obstacles, see gaps, weaknesses.

Saturn slows us down so that we can look with a firm and cold gaze at the reality we have built in our lives and find new ways and ways to become a true author - an authority - in our lives. We have another chance to become who we really are.

In mythology, Saturn is associated with the harvest, with the reward for the efforts made. If we are willing to wait, work, persist. Saturn is a strict Teacher and he asks to clean up his psychological and physical rubbish and dig up the soil (of our psyche) before we plant new seeds (new intentions / new life).

In the times of the Return, we have a chance for real change and life-renewing rewards. This is truly a planet of opportunity.

During the Second Return comes the wisdom of the Elder. Our personal and public safety is under review. This is a difficult time and time for harvesting, the results of work over the past years.

We ask a lot of questions at this time. We cannot repeat past mistakes. We are taking the first steps towards new beginnings.

Saturn often asks "Whose movie am I in?" and challenges to be a director and screenwriter. It would be too easy to read the lines of a famous script. Instead, we must become Self Authors and become true Authors of our lives.

We need to rewrite our life script. It's not always easy, our life is full of people and situations that no longer reflect our essence. The human unconscious often creates situations that challenge us.

It seems to be hiring other people to play certain roles in our life history - this one will be the boss, this one the victim, and this one the unfaithful lover.

Saturnian post-checks in life are associated with the moments when these people play their roles and it is time to adjust their life script. We must take our projections back and look at the drama of our lives as OUR responsibility. And don't blame anyone.

During the Second Return, Saturn calls for concrete action in the real world, but this is all very subtle. If we don't do what needs to be done, we may no longer have a second chance. If you are putting off checking your health, it may be too late.

If you don't admit to yourself that “my job is killing me, but I have to wait until retirement,” it may actually kill you.

As the body ages, fatigue and depression grow, the body is no longer an object of pride, and then the Spirit has a chance to come forward. Some old habits may show their heads to be chopped off.

You may be asking yourself the question "why should I deal with this issue again?" and the answer is "because you almost solved it." You are now wiser and more mature about things. With the gift of wisdom, you complete unfinished business and situations.

At this time, you need to clean the very foundations - the basements of your existence and look at your non-idealizations, let the illusions go away. Now is the time to slow down and allow pleasant things to come into your life.

We can return to what gives the fruits of our experience - a certain project, to what we can do well and even better.

And here are the tools to help pass the Saturnian tests:

1 Be discern (discern)

Since I am wiser today than I was a year ago and I know much more, I can wisely use elections based on clarity of intentions. Dream of a future with a clearly visible path between the trees. "Know thyself" and "Nothing superfluous" - the inscriptions from the Delphic temple are clearly for me.

Now it is necessary to retreat from the excesses of youth and clearly understand what I can and cannot do.

2 Be cordial

Take the courage to ask knowledgeable people for advice. And at home: how much I project my insecurities and fears into the surrounding reality, making my life unhappy, unable to take responsibility and heartily perceive others.

3 Go deeper

"All or nothing" is a rather superficial quick decision, but Saturn does not like "quick". No quick decisions and things done in a hurry! It is better to withstand the tension of rending contradictions and internal conflicts until a new shaping of the idea appears.

And only then, it's time to get out of your usual comfort zone and do it! Dig deeper - you will find precious water at the very bottom!

4 Take action!

In the end, Saturn rewards those who do and depresses those who procrastinate from day to day.

Ironically - but while we are waiting (warm and good weather for spring - good weather by the sea :)) Saturn is testing us for the strength of our faith - rebirth and rebirth. We are like seeds on a windowsill, waiting for seedlings and watering.

And in due time we must act, dig deep, separate weeds from emerging flowers ..

... everything comes in due time ..

We dwelt in great detail on the Saturn Return cycle (especially for my reader who asked the question), but there are also many other cycles - for example, the opposition of Uranus and the square of Neptune at the age of about 40-42 years, called the Middle Age Crisis, the Return of Jupiter - occurs every 12 years old and also marks the beginning and end of certain milestones in life, an upgrade in lifestyle.

Personal cycles can be found at consultations with astrologers, and everyone has their own working astroinfluences in difficult moments of life.

Conclusion: the events taking place are influenced by planetary, cosmic, etc. cycles.

Tip: if you need support in times of crisis, contact professional therapists (psychologists, astrologers, etc.) and support groups, ask friends and family for help. They will surely help you regain lost hope.

What to do when everything is bad - how to act in a difficult period of life, when it seems that everything is falling apart.

Everyone has periods in life when everything collapses, falls out of hand and everything only gets worse.

Doors close before you, friends turn away, life turns into hell. And it seems that nothing good just can be. It could only get worse. How to act and how to behave in this difficult period of the "black strip"?

What to do when things are really bad

Step 1 - don't panic or get discouraged

The more we panic, the more mistakes we make, worsening our situation. Sadness and depression take away the strength to deal with circumstances. Keeping cool is difficult, but it will be the surest thing to do under the circumstances.

Step 2 - Do not fight with anyone

During such periods, everyone usually has nerves on the side-altar and it is easy to break on someone. But in order not to remain alone in difficult times, it is better not to quarrel with your friends and family if possible, they will be very useful to you. You should not also argue with the people you meet on the street, bus, etc., they simply respond to your negative attitude towards life. Treat people as condescending and understanding as possible. This will protect you from a lot of unpleasant moments.

Step 3 - keep smiling

Of course, everything goes to hell, but this does not mean that life ends. It just happens that you have to go through. Smiling, even the most artificial one, will help you cope with your emotional state. The fact is that the position of the facial muscles is interconnected with the release of certain hormones in our body. That is, when serotonin is produced in our body, we involuntarily begin to smile, no matter how hard we try to restrain ourselves. You can also achieve the opposite success. If you put on even the most artificial smile on your face and maintain this position for 5-10 minutes, you will notice that your mood will improve significantly. Perhaps this will not clarify your position, but it will obviously be easier to think.

Step 4 - Believe that things will get better

As strange as it may sound in our materialistic time, faith is half the way to success. Believe me, it's not enough either. Believing in something, without noticing it yourself, you form a kind of energy impulse that is thrown into the outside world. This impulse will definitely return to you in the form of a random decision, advice or assistant. This is how the special energy of our consciousness works, since the world is a huge organism in which everything is interconnected and mutually attractive.

Step 5 - Resign yourself and take what is happening for granted

It is sometimes very difficult for us to understand what is happening in the right light. We simply cannot know why something that we generally liked and liked collapses. Why are such dramatic changes taking place? However, in order to build something more durable and large, first of all, you should destroy the old, no matter how unpleasant this fact may seem to us.

Think back to your youth. How we wanted something and how angry we were when we could not get it or do it. Remember how grateful you were later when you realized what consequences all this could lead to. But this realization does not come immediately to regret. It takes time and patience. Therefore, no matter how difficult and bitter it is for you now, just know that there are logical reasons for this.

Even after the worst storm, the sun always comes out. The main thing is to remember this and not to forget during the very middle of the abyss of unpleasant events.

When everything falls apart

Human life is full of surprises, both good and bad!

However, today I would like to touch upon those life moments that radically affect people. Personal tragedies, breaks and losses.

To do this, let’s imagine for a moment the life of an imaginary person and add to his fate something that God forbid each of us to experience!

So, a child was born, let's say a girl. The first day at school, school days, vacations, first love, graduated from school and entered college ...

It seems like a standard period of life. Let's not be distracted by "minor difficulties".

Now let's see who (as a person) has become to 30-35 years old our imaginary person !?

That's right, nothing "military" is listed here, a person has gone through a fairly normal life until this time, with the exception of children!

But why do we focus on this particular period? Because the regularity of life with such a fairly long period of time (by the age of 30-35) already carries a danger!

Do not consider me a pessimist or a provocateur, just further I will deliberately begin to change the life of our heroine radically and deplorably for her. And all because you cannot pretend that this does not happen!

… Another 3 years have passed. And then something happens that some may think "well, this is life."

Our heroine is abandoned by a loved one and leaves forever….

We will even close our eyes to the fact that suddenly this could not happen. Suppose that our heroine was "blind" and did not notice when her family broke down.

Do you think it will be easy for her to get over it morally?

I will say more, even if you drop love and leave only the feeling of attachment - it will be a real tragedy. And if she also loved her husband, then the WHOLE WORLD will simply collapse around her!

She will not be able to: concentrate on work, enjoy the sun, communicate with friends, even think normally, and it will be difficult.

This is not all. It will be terribly difficult to fall asleep at night. And even having forgotten herself in a dream, she will wake up in the morning and feel as if a heavy column of sadness falls on her chest. And grief (namely grief) will overwhelm her with renewed vigor, like something dark and burning from within a stain, will devour her, not allowing her to live normally. A sea of \u200b\u200btears and complete apathy for everything around are inevitable.

Awful? Unfortunately yes! There are very few people who can avoid all this if they find themselves in a similar situation.

And the first reason here is a sudden betrayal that brought down all the inner and holy pillars. A person will never think that his measured and calm life can end overnight! And when it comes - the world collapses around!

The second reason - this is the hidden danger that a long and measured period of life carries! The fact is that the depth and pain from the possible collapse of the usual way of life is proportional to the duration of this period. In other words, the longer, the harder it is to forget and change everything!

Moreover, we do not even touch upon the material structure. Only the inner state of our heroine!

Here is one example for you, which in an instant can completely change a person! And the worst thing is to change it irrevocably. Believe me, there are destinies that are much worse than the one we just presented! And do not look for hints here, I just could not help touching on this topic.

Well, now, I will not cheat on myself and I will give one effective advice to those who (I hope there are none) found themselves in a similar situation. It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman. Betrayal and collapse hit everyone equally.

So. If the world collapses overnight , if you cannot believe that a loved one betrayed you, and if you have this shock situation, then DO NOT TRY TO RETURN EVERYTHING IMMEDIATELY!

Tears, requests, calls - all this is useless! Apart from aggravating the situation and additional pain, this will not bring.

You need to remove this inner feeling of horror and the future mental picture "what will happen next?"

And this is how it is done. You don't need to persuade yourself that you are a strong person and everything that is not done is for the better. That's bullshit! It won't help!

On the contrary, imagine that exactly one month later, your loved one will return to you! Moreover, it is necessary to present in such a way that neither he nor you are to blame for what happened!

I understand: anger, love, hatred, sentimentality - all this will in turn fill your consciousness. Therefore, try to drive away negative thoughts and emotions from yourself, and leave only positive ones!

Draw yourself the situation in all details, like in a month or two, you two WILL BE TOGETHER AGAIN AND ALREADY FOREVER!

I know what I am saying! Exactly so and not otherwise! Your consciousness is already traumatized, so it is very important here GIVE HIM WHAT IT HAS LOST - regularity, even in dreams!

This is not self-deception! With the right mood, it will be exactly how you draw your future inside yourself!

Second... There is no need to think in a moment of grief whether you can forgive and accept back or not. YOU DECIDE THIS LATER!Now the most important thing is your state of mind! Remember this!

Constantly imagine that everything is about to work out! Give yourself a specific deadline: in a month, three, six months, a year - but he (s) EVERYTHING WILL COME BACK TO YOU AND YOU WILL BE HAPPY!

Third. Burn comedy series on DVD. Let them be primitive, the main thing is the result. And this is your laugh or smile! Watch them for hours on end!

Generally, Your goal is to soften the blow to self-awareness! All the rest - later! How long it will take you also should not worry.

Thoughts will still return to reality, and here you need to show your will. Convince yourself that your loved one just left for a couple of months.

I emphasize! This advice is only suitable for those who really experience mental anguish in a similar situation!

May nothing like this happen to you, as described above!

And let this information remain for you a regular article on the Internet!

83 comments on "When it all falls apart"

For every person at some point in his life, his hour X may come, when the usual picture of the world collapses and there is not the slightest idea of \u200b\u200bwhat will happen tomorrow ...

My naive, rosy and happy world collapsed overnight. The grief fell like a tsunami, sweeping away and destroying everything that was built in thirteen years of family life in its path.

My husband, a military pilot, died in a car accident. I was left with two children, without work, without my own home, without the slightest idea of \u200b\u200bwhat will happen to us tomorrow. It was the ninety-third year ...

This shouldn't have happened ?!

I remember that on that tragic day of my life, with all my being, I longed for only one thing: to UNDERSTAND what was wrong with us, why and according to what LAW or someone's evil WILL it happened ?!

Later, when I came to my senses a little, I remembered that for some time before that, we were with him in some strange state, as if all the time preparing for parting, saying goodbye, without realizing it ...

My husband gave me orders. He could suddenly, not paying attention to passers-by, pick me up in his arms and carry me all the way to the house ...

“This shouldn't have happened to you,” people told me. And in my soul there was a Riot against the UNJUSTICE OF LIFE !!!

The mercy of life is manifested through people

It was at this moment that my friends introduced me to a woman who knew how to view other people's past lives.

As it turned out later, she was my mother, sister, lover, friend in past incarnations.

And this time it was she who helped me to open the window of my consciousness so that I could start breathing again, live and move on. For many years, already in this life, we have become like-minded people. And now the grandmothers of their beloved grandson.

I experienced the first dive as a second birth

I took the first plunge into a past life as proof of what I always wanted to believe: THERE IS NO DEATH!

The joy of this realization, that I have already been, is and therefore will ALWAYS be - not comparable to any other feeling! Is it only from the moment of the birth of children!

I still clearly remember that piercing feeling when I first pressed my eldest daughter to my chest and thought: THERE IS NO DEATH! There is only ENDLESS LIFE, there is only one endless DELICION OF LIFE!

Then, of course, unconsciously, I experienced a new meeting with the soul of my childwhom I have tragically lost in many lives. Pain and Joy were merged into one inseparable feeling of LOVE.

Why did I need all this?

Thus began my journey to myself. Fascinating, exciting, with amazing discoveries, dangers, worries, disappointments, pain and joy. Everything is like in life.

Sometimes the transformation of consciousness caused such pain in the body that it was difficult to move. But over time it passed "by itself."

Sometimes the immersion turned out to be so deep that it took a lot of spiritual strength to go through all this and not lose the sense of reality ...

But I know absolutely for sure: never, in any of these moments of my study of the LAWS of the UNIVERSE, I was left without the support of invisible helpers and with the help of which I overcame my self-restraint.

And today in my heart there lives endless LOVE and GRATITUDE for this help and mercy.

My Universe has become infinite!

Acceptance is what I never tire of moving down this path.

Now I know the story of our love, written by us not only in this life. I know how hard it was for my husband to lose me in the past. Our souls learn to be free in love, helping each other to find and accumulate spiritual and mental strength.

Fate gave me another meeting with a man whom I have known for many, many lives. I have been waiting for her for 15 years. It turned out to be surprising that he was also looking for me, was very close, but was waiting in the wings for H.

The pain of parting and loss (I really hope and believe in it!) Will no longer kill me and will not deprive me of my mind, as it was in my past incarnations. And I am THANK YOU to my soul mate who agreed for me and for the souls of our children to this lesson.

It's worth going through

But do not think that only one knowledge of the root cause of the event, if it has its roots in the past incarnation, automatically makes you free and happy.

My experience suggests that the deeper the problem, the more serious and global the transformation of our consciousness is necessary, the more evolutionary the process of human spiritual growth becomes.

Changes happen gradually, step by step, bringing us closer to our True Self.

But if a person is ready, these changes can be rapid. And then there is an instant transformation. I would compare it to the way the cryptography appears on a sheet brought to the fire ...

A person becomes more manifested in all his qualities, brighter as a person. It's worth going through.

Therefore, the path itself over the years has become for me and for my family a way of life and a way of thinking. It is no longer possible to stop halfway. I began to look at everything differently.

The chance given to everyone

From the very beginning of the appearance of the Institute of Reincarnation, it was important for me to understand in what direction its development will go? And what I see today is very inspiring to me.

I think that collective consciousness and support can dramatically accelerate the evolutionary movement of each person. Moreover, right now humanity has received such a chance.

And I am among those who are ready to take advantage of this. And you?

P.S. It seems to me that my personal story can help someone find spiritual support in the most terrible moment of life, when everything is crumbling. Because only after experiencing this, you can tell people: "EVERYTHING WILL BE WELL!"

 

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