How to start to be happy. How to be happy every day. Live here and now

"Morality teaches not how to become happy, but how to become worthy of happiness."

―Immanuel Kant

I wonder if every woman can say that she is happy? When we are asked such a question, we instantly answer - of course, I am happy, because I have everything - a caring husband, children, a favorite job.

Is it about you? Then you are on the right track. But the most important thing is not to convince yourself of this, but to really feel that way.

Positive thinking is the first step to victory. But some women tend to succumb to other people's opinions, thinking that happiness should be the same as they write in books or as shown on TV. Such women fall into depression ... And then, having suffered a lot, they oppress their loved ones.

How to learn to be happy every day

Day after day, the minutes of our life expire, a woman strives to be in time everywhere, to be and remain, healthy, beautiful, take place as a mother, be loved and, of course, make a career. In the hustle and bustle of these days, we sometimes forget even just to look up and see what a beautiful blue sky and how beautifully the birds are singing.

It is necessary to stop and look around and find beauty in the little things, because there is no "yesterday" and "tomorrow", but there is only "Here and now"... Think about the fact that tomorrow may never come. What would you do today? Maybe you should live to the fullest, breathe deeply, do what you have long dreamed of and say "I love" everyone you love.

But do not forget that the advice to live every day like the last time does not mean that it is worth drinking, carousing and doing stupid things. Try to enjoy every moment! This is not easy to learn, but if you start now, you will soon learn to be happy no matter the circumstances or people.

14 golden rules of happiness:

When you wake up, the first thing to do is smile at yourself and the sun (smile at your relatives, friends, passers-by) ...
Stop complaining about life, comparing yourself to others, and thinking negatively. Learn to enjoy the little things without taking failure to heart.
Find your hobby.
Unlearn to think negatively and "cut off" all thoughts about the bad.
Enjoy food (during the meal, think about food, its smell, taste, give up watching TV).
Take a walk in the fresh air while enjoying nature.
Watch life-affirming films, listen to pleasant music (audio, song or video does not matter), choose something that pleases and warms the soul, let it be a melodrama or thriller, a comedy series or a historical film ...
Forgive the offenders and let go of the past, leave only the good in the present. Learning to forgive is easy first you need to forgive yourself, because we are people, we tend to make mistakes. Remember how in the movie "Eat Pray Love"? Send a ray of light to a person dear to you, so you will give a piece of yourself, having already begun a new life filled with happiness.
Read books or essays on psychology (there are plenty of them). For example, Dale Carnegie and his "Textbook of Life", Louise Hay "Everything a Woman Wants", sister Stephanie "How to name a child so that he is happy" ..., Mrinal Kumar Gupta "How to be happy always", in each of the books has its own morality.
find various trainings and affirmations (on the Internet they are online and completely free).
Do good to others for free.
Take time for yourself (thinking about the meaning of life, plans for the summer, etc.).
Always put love first in all situations.
Dream.
Give thanks for everything you have now.

Joy in the family

Every woman should remember that there is nothing more precious than family. It is she who is the foundation of happiness. And your heart will tell you how to be happy in your family.

There are two ways out:

You understand that you do not love your husband, clearly realizing that he is not your man and you are unhappy with him - leave.
Accept your spouse as he is, not wanting to change "for yourself."

The recipe is banally simple.

Further, it is worth understanding that it is very important to become a lover in the family, a loving wife and a good mother all rolled into one. Dr. Torsunov in his lectures on Ayurveda - the science of life, reveals the principles that help family people to improve relationships, diet, get rid of bad habits. For example, lecturing can help you quit smoking or get rid of alcohol cravings if the husband or wife is drinking.

In a relationship with a man

The main rules for strong and long-term relationships:

become a friend to him
take care of yourself
learn to cook deliciously
"Don't mind your brain"
surprise him in bed
leave him time for personal space (going to a sports bar, beer with friends)
say "I love you"
don't try to change him
be yourself

Such simple, but at the same time complex rules will help you not to lose your man.

If you are going to get married, consider whether communication with your beloved brings you joy. Maybe you're just jealous of the rest of the married couples, or are you just tired of parental care? Then you shouldn't rush to get married.

Psychologists advise to download the book "How to become loved and desired." It was written by the modern writer Oksana Duplyakina. The author gives advice to all women. With her books, she teaches women to be more confident in themselves, to recognize their chosen one or husband from the other side, to establish relations with him…. And here's what Carnegie's Textbook of Life tells us about husband-wife relationships:
do not criticize or find fault with your husband;
jealousy for anything, do not pursue him for any reason;
show each other signs of attention, know how to listen to the interlocutor;
be careful, that is, notify your husband in advance about your or general plans;
read a good book about sex (spouses can get to know each other better).

But what about a man - does he have to do something? Of course he should.

Read the poems of A. Pushkin "Onegin's Letter to Tatiana", the heroes of this work are happy or may be depressed by their feelings ... think about who you are for your man, who are you next to him?

Usually, the reasons for divorce or quarrels in a relationship are lack of money, dissatisfaction in sexual relations, or diverging interests.

Being married is a real art that requires learning and new practices. Rimma Home's book "Magical Female Tricks" especially for women. She will tell you that you are a valuable prize, a godsend for a man, they will hunt you as prey. Decide on a "magic experiment" with Rimma. The writer has a wealth of experience in communicating with the opposite sex, passes it on to other women, advises how to keep a loved one, while not straining too much, how to raise your self-esteem. You can learn more about this book by reading reviews and reviews of readers.

Lonely

What if the woman is alone?

Take this reality as a new stage in life and enjoy the loneliness. You don't have to cook for someone in the morning and wash dirty socks, you live for yourself and you can do whatever you want. Enjoy this period and you will not notice how the only one with which you want to wash socks and cook breakfast will appear in your life.

Understand that successful and happy people attract others like you. If you are grief-stricken and suffering, you will attract a similar loser to you.

(To all those who want to change everything in their life once and for all, we recommend Vitaly Gibert's book “Modeling the Future).

After reading the text on Tibetan medicine by a Tibetan doctor, you will understand that women do not have time to develop in the modern world, that is, their physical condition - the bodily does not keep pace with the spiritual. Earlier, it was not so, women gave birth to 5-10 children each, but they did not do additional things, they got tired much less. So, you are in a period when a woman is cleansing her body (menstruation is passing), you also need to cleanse yourself spiritually, conduct meditation, for example, or do something useful, uncomplicated, you cannot be nervous these days, strongly splashing out your energy, you need to let only good feelings into the soul. According to this theory, women are divided into 3 types: wind (lung), bile (trip), mucus (badkan). Not very pleasant names, but it is worth studying these types of female energy at least for general development. Moreover, each type has its own character, its own diet, which helps to cope with PMS, as a result, to increase their vitality. Seemingly simple recommendations that will help a woman survive difficulties, establish contact with herself and other people.

Say in front of the mirror - I am strong, I am a person worthy of respect and love, I appreciate myself and love myself for who I am! Despite the loneliness, as you can see, I am alive, and everything will be fine with me.

Research groups of scientists at Harvard and California Universities believe that happiness is a virus that lives by all the laws of infectious disease. According to them, if there are friendly and smiling people around a person, then this attitude is transmitted to him. In particular, a person's chance of being happy increases by 25% if their best friend is happy.

“The more often we communicate with people happy with life, the higher our chances, if not for happiness, then at least for a positive mood,” says Olga Karabanova, Doctor of Psychology, Deputy Dean for Research at the Faculty of Psychology at Moscow State University.

But physiologists believe that happiness depends on hormones - endorphins, serotonin and dopamine. Serotonin eliminates depression, improves mental abilities, is useful for internal organs, and improves the functioning of the gastrointestinal tract. But serotonin works closely with dopamine, the pleasure hormone, and GABA, which is responsible for the relaxation process.

The lack of even one of these substances affects mood, depriving a person of a sense of happiness. To prevent this from happening, small adjustments can be made to the diet by increasing the doses of certain foods:

Serotonin- found in eggs, low-fat cheeses, poultry, avocados.
Dopamine- found in fruits and vegetables with vitamin C.
GABA- Found in eggs, dark green vegetables, seeds, nuts, potatoes and bananas.

But happiness is not only in tasty and proper food, but also in a good mood, a positive outlook, absence of stress, anxiety and worries, as well as in psychological and physical health.

How to learn to be happy?

Don't envy or compare yourself to others.... It is very important to learn to be content with what you already have, appreciate it and enjoy it, without ceasing to strive for more. The victories of others and the blessings of life should not cause anger and irritation, but motivate and inspire. The desire to keep up with others in anything is one of the main enemies of happiness.
Do not stop there and constantly set new goals for yourself, let them be global, for example, to build a house or visit an exotic country, and everyday, for example, to submit a report or start going to fitness. Remember, becoming a doctor, raising a child, or making soup are all goals.
Don't regret anything... If something has already happened, then it cannot be changed. Thinking about what could be changed in the past is absolutely useless; it is better to concentrate on what can be done in the present and the future.
Make decisions for yourself and be responsible for them... No one but you knows what is best for you. Of course, advice is sometimes worth listening to, but try your life only for yourself.
Learn to relax, because rest and pleasure is an important component of truly happy people. Do not sacrifice leisure for work or money - there will always be a lot of the first, and not enough of the second. Try to organize yourself regular vacations with a rich program, do not forget about daily rest, which includes not only sleep and leisure, but also banal "doing nothing".
Learn to forgive and forget hurt feelings... After all, keeping negative emotions in yourself is the same as drinking poison, but thinking that it will poison someone else.
Go in for sports, fitness, do gymnastics regularly, or at least just walk a lot... It has been proven that during physical activity the brain absorbs more oxygen, and the body produces “hormones of joy” (dopamine, serotonin), which raise mood for at least 4 hours.
Monitor your health, after all, any disease is a poor state of health and a breakdown, and it is much easier to prevent it than to spend energy, time and money on treatment.
Eat right, try to learn how to avoid unhealthy foods like fast food, but still enjoy the food. Not a single diet has made a person happy, but a delicious dinner may well improve your mood.
Learn to love yourself, respect and appreciate every day, thereby balancing healthy egoism with correct self-criticism.
Smileeven if there is no one to smile. Physiologists call a smile a button of good mood, joyful facial expressions remove muscle clamps and stimulate the parts of the brain responsible for good mood.
Surround yourself with positive - positive books, films, beautiful things, for example, flowers, photographs or dishes, listen to good funny music.

AiF.ru has collected 8 statements of famous people about happiness. Try to guess

About the quality of advice

Each of us wants to be a happy person. Not all of them voice it, even less - they do something for this. Of those who take some steps to find happiness, only a small part, mainly women, are looking for answers to the questions of how to become happy and loved and how to become rich and happy. Men (due to the structure of their mind) look for ways to achieve and receive.

With the advent of the accessible Internet, everyone began to advise and not too lazy. And who is still lazy - copy and paste other people's advice or buy the work of schoolchildren-copywriters or graphomaniac housewives. Who do you think writes for a penny? Hence the appalling quality of the recommendations. If only it was, and there - at least the grass does not grow.

To cover the topic in depth is time and work that no one appreciated. Few people are capable of it. Therefore, I ask you not just to run through the article in order to put another piece of information garbage in your head. Try the effectiveness of at least one piece of advice. Only you can make you happy!

Biochemistry of happiness

Happiness and unhappiness are complexes of sensations and feelings that depend on external and internal factors, distributed according to the Pareto law. 80% depend on the state of the psyche and the body, 20% - on external circumstances.

The last point is worth clarifying. It is not the external circumstances themselves that cause happiness, but our attitude towards them. But unlike armchair psychologists who do not rely on biology, medicine, anthropology, sociology, and physics, I cannot argue that responses to stimuli are amenable to our control. In some cases, this is not the case because they are biologically determined.

The level of hormones in the blood is perceived as feelings due to the work of the cingulate cortex. Our self-esteem and the degree of irrationality of thinking also depend on the work of this area.

I am not suggesting that thoughts are a product of the workings of the cerebral cortex. However, the direction and content of thoughts depend on electrochemical processes and even blood pressure in the brain. In the same way, the quality of a television transmission depends on the material, condition and even the location of the antenna, not to mention the condition of the TV's microcircuits.

A person who holds with both hands to the "truths" of materialism, idealism, agnosticism and other trends is a fanatic and / or ignorant. Since the late 19th century, every 30 years of research has turned science upside down. Scientific truths of the early 20th century, such as caloric, now cause a smile, but at one time they worked. Do you understand what I'm getting at?

The scientific paradigm of today by the end of the 21st century will be significantly revised, and we do not even know which way. Before the advent of the theory of relativity and quantum mechanics, not a single science fiction writer or predictor could even foresee their premises and significance in general terms.

Decreased activity of the cingulate cortex plunges us into the virtual reality of emotional assessments and unmotivated reactions. Unfortunately, most people dive into this state of consciousness every day. Being in a narrowed corridor of consciousness, we are not able to control the reaction to stimuli. This state of affairs explains the very 20% dependence of happiness and unhappiness on the environment.

The chemistry of emotions

If you are interested in the effect of which substances on the central nervous system are perceived by us as strong feelings, I give a table:

Substance	Emotion
Adrenalin	Fear
Norepinephrine	Rage
Endorphins and enkephalins	Bliss, happiness
Phenylethylamine	Love
Serotonin	Positive rise
Oxytocin	Confidence
Dopamine	Fun
Vasopressin	Attachment

We experience these emotions only when the concentration of the substances presented in the table reaches the desired level in certain parts of the brain. So, chemically, the feeling of filling happiness is a high concentration of endogenous morphines and catecholamines mixed with phenylethylamine and ethanol.

The simplest and most dead-end conclusion is that by artificially raising the concentration of the necessary substances, you can become a happy person. This is not true.

Nature arranged it so that, having received artificial equivalents of these substances, we begin to degrade and disintegrate. Their production by the body is a reward for biologically justified or correct actions. And if everything is clear with the first point - sleep, food, sex, then everyone has their own correctness. How can you not think about the destination?

In addition, the brain has an interesting filter that creates a barrier when the acceptable level of natural positive hormones is exceeded. In addition to this barrier, algorithms are turned on that lead to a decrease in the response to stimuli. It's addictive and exhausting.

The psychology of happiness

We are different, and this is an axiom. It is necessary to advise how to become happier based on existential differences. All people are divided into two unequal groups. The dividing line is the relationship to the meaning of life.

Survival and excellence group people

The first, most numerous group directs psychic energy for survival and / or superiority. These are permanently happy people who are not even aware of it. They don't care about the meaning of life. Even if such a question visits during a period of loss or illness, the psyche will do everything to level it.

Such people have no time to think about it. The first option is that they survive and there really is no time and energy left for the rest. The second option is that they are looking for pleasure and asserting themselves. Society provides a huge number of toys for this - money, respect, fame, power.

Happiness for people of this group is an expression of the measure of constancy of pleasure and the frequency of success.

Writer, PhD, and Harvard University professor Tal Ben-Shahar in his book Learning to Be Happy (based on Leadership Psychology and Positive Psychology, some of the most popular courses in Harvard history University) answers the question "How to become happier?" The book teaches you to live both in the present and in the future, find the right balance between your long-term goals and urgent needs, and enjoy life like never before.

From the pages of the book, Tal Ben-Shahar assures us that we can become happy in the same way as we can become, for example, a graduate, we can learn to be happy just as we can learn a foreign language or learn to drive a car.

For those who do not want to buy a book and do not plan to study at Harvard in the near future, I offer some tips on how to become happy, from the much-requested lecturer and writer Tal Ben-Shahar.

How to be happier right now

The first thing to do in order to become a happy person, you need to understand what will make you so... Tal Ben Shahar offers a good and fairly simple technique. Take a blank piece of paper and finish this sentence: “ To bring five percent happiness into my life… ”It is worth thinking more about new experiences than about things and specific amounts of cash. One hundred thousand dollars is unlikely to make you a happy person, but traveling, playing any kind of sport, mastering new skills and abilities, financial stability or the opportunity to spend more time with your family will. Tal Ben-Shahar advises starting with more modest wishes. Make it a rule to check the list from time to time, and, as you complete it, cross out one and add another.
Do not dwell on troubles, difficult life situations, or what annoys you, angers and scares you. Our happiness is largely determined by how we relate to external events and where we focus our attention. If your thoughts are completely and completely concentrated on negative and negative emotions, and you are unable to cope with it, then what kind of happiness can we talk about? The best way to break this negative and vicious circle is to direct your thoughts in a different, opposite direction. Change your attitude to failure, learn from any situation to learn positive lessons, change pessimistic to optimistic, sort it out with your phobias and fears... through the power of thought, program your subconscious mind to positive attitude.
Don't make happiness your only and ultimate goal. For, to learn to be happy, one should understand that happiness is not a final state... If you receive or do something, for a short time you will experience pleasant emotions, but this is only temporary. Satisfying the constant need for happiness presupposes that we take pleasure in the road along which we walk in a direction considered significant. Happiness, therefore, is not something that can be found at the top of a mountain, and it is not aimless wandering near a mountain: happiness is the experience of climbing and conquering the top. As Dostoevsky said - “ Happiness is not in happiness, but only in achieving it"(Read others sayings, quotes and aphorisms about happiness).
Accept not only positive emotions, such as sense of accomplishment, pleasure, and enthusiasm, but also emotions such as rage, anger, envy, worry, sadness, and regret. Don't try to run away from them or deny them. The expectation of constant and endless happiness is impossible and unrealistic, just as it is impossible to constantly be in good mood... Ben-Shahar is sure that such an expectation will not help to become a happy and fulfilled person, it only leads to greater disappointment and a feeling of complete lack of happiness.
The happiest people (those who feel so) turn happiness into a universal currency. It is this that becomes for them that value (and not money and social status) with which they measure the quality of their life. Therefore, if you do not know how to become happier, if you feel your days as empty and meaningless (you feel unhappy person), ask yourself a question - what did I exchange for or where did I lose my happiness? Make happiness your compass to guide your actions.
To become happier, we must learn to free up time for activities and goals that can bring us pleasure. Simplify your routine, free your mind from emotional slag, bring it into your life new impressions and finally, stop living with feeling shortage and lack of time... So you can "headlong" immerse yourself in what makes you a happy person.
Create traditions. Professor Tal Ben-Shahar is convinced that the "ritual of happiness" will help make a person happier. It can be anything. Someone enjoys morning meditation, someone enjoys an evening walk, for example, for the professor, keeping a “Diary of gratitude” has become a "ritual of happiness", in which he writes down five things before going to bed, every day, for which he is grateful. Transform activities that delight you and deliver a lot of positive emotions into your "ritual of happiness."
Remember the relationship between the body and consciousness !!! How to be happy if you experience health problems, lack and loss of energy ?! We perceive our good health as something natural. But as soon as we start to feel unwell or, God forbid, we get sick with something serious, we can no longer ignore the physical condition. We think and talk about it, it affects our mood and attitude towards life, our relationship with people. So if you want to feel unwell not to prevent you from staying happy, take care of your health. Get enough sleep (if you suffer from lack of sleep and you can't fall asleep quickly - visit the "Health" section), exercise regularly (if you lead a sedentary lifestyle or you have a sedentary job - get up from the table more often), pay attention to your food.
Imagine yourself in old age. Take a look back and assess the past years, as it were, give advice to yourself young. What meaningful lessons has life taught you? What things and events are not even worth paying attention to? A look at one's past and present, as it were, "from the height of wise years," clarifies a lot.

22 643 1 Hello! In this article, we'll show you how to become a happy person. And also about how a woman can become happy and loved, even if she is alone and has no one. Today you will receive the best psychological advice on the subject.

Probably, each of us dreams, waking up one morning, to feel the maximum of happiness and peace of mind. Happiness is the state of complete satisfaction with one's own life. This is a purely subjective characteristic.... Looking at a person from the outside, we can only assume whether he is happy. Only he himself feels it.

The feeling of happiness never depends directly on status, financial capabilities, social environment, etc. Often people with material wealth, many friends and a good family feel unhappy. And sometimes a person who is not particularly wealthy, with a difficult fate, can experience real happiness. Everything here completely depends on ourselves.

What influences feelings of happiness

Values. Each of us has a certain set of meaningful values \u200b\u200b( "To love and be loved", "family", "interesting work", "freedom", "constant development" and so on), and if they are present in our life, then the feeling of happiness does not leave us.
Achievement of the set goals. Some are dominated by simple and quickly achievable goals, while others are ambitious and demanding. But one way or another, the main criterion for happiness here is the result obtained.
Satisfaction of needs. The key is to satisfy exactly the needs that a person puts at the head. You can be a hungry artist, but if recognition or self-expression is the most important thing for him and this is realized, then he is more likely to experience happiness. But if the most significant needs are regularly left unmet, then the person is unhappy.
. If we are satisfied with ourselves and assess ourselves adequately, then we become more confident and feel inner harmony. If we are not in tune with ourselves, we are constantly engaged in self-digging, then we cannot feel completely happy.
Health. Health problems are always more or less reflected in the feeling of happiness. Therefore, it is important to be attentive to your condition in order to be able to prevent serious violations in time.

What prevents you from being happy

Unfortunately (or fortunately, sorry for the tautology), our own attitudes, beliefs, thoughts almost always interfere with being happy.

Creation of obstacles.Quite often, we ourselves come up with various difficulties and obstacles on the path to happiness, believing that it is not easy and that you have to pay for everything. It seems that true happiness should be achieved through suffering, conquered ... But paradoxically, while we are struggling with invented barriers and obstacles, it leaves, and we do not notice it. We ourselves do not allow ourselves to be happy .
The burden of the past.Being happy is often hindered by negative events that have ever happened to us. The experiences associated with them constantly return us to that time, and we dwell on the problems of the past.

Turn around... It simply cannot be such that nothing pleases and even for a moment was not a reason for happiness. It is made up of little things. You were given a compliment, you have successfully completed work on an important task, your baby smiled at you, you attended an interesting event ... Every day there are many reasons for happiness. Our task is to notice them and rejoice.

Listening to birdsong, the rustle of grass in the wind and leaves under your feet are useful actions for internal calming and establishing a connection with the world. Enjoy the simplest things. They charge you with positive energy and allow you to be distracted from bad thoughts, to feel happier.

Break the vicious circle.

For example, we may be sad about not getting where we want to be. And we do not achieve it because we sit and do not take any action (or we do not act like that), since all thoughts are occupied with unnecessary experiences and the search for those to blame. And it often seems that this circle cannot be broken. We all expect that the circumstances will change dramatically or some great luck will fall on us. The likelihood of this is low. And the only way out is in ourselves. You need to open the circle by ceasing to worry and starting to act. Any steps and attempts to change the situation or attitude towards life will bring you closer to happiness.

Get carried away.

You should definitely have something to your liking - something that inspires you and energizes you. Being creative, doing sports allows you to express yourself and cope with stress. But it may not be just a hobby. For example, realizing oneself as a mother, a caring wife, doing household chores also allows you to feel like a truly happy woman at any age: at 20 and at 40.

Rest and.

If you're exhausted and don't get enough sleep on a regular basis, you can hardly feel completely happy. Healthy sleep not only helps to restore strength, but also to bring thoughts and feelings in order.

Follow your goals and follow through on what you started.

The more completed cases you have in your piggy bank, the freer and more harmonious you will feel. and do not retreat from them when faced with obstacles.

Breathe happiness into another person's life.

The more often you do good deeds and please others, the happier you yourself will become. The positive energy from your good deeds will definitely return to you. This is the pattern. Give gifts to others, say nice words, give support, do charity work. The feeling that you are changing the world for the better helps you understand how you become happy.

Look to the future not with fear, but with hope.

Stick to the principle and constantly remind yourself: “ Now it is good, but it will be even better". Make plans and look forward to their implementation. The more actively you can act and implement your plans, the more interesting the future will seem to you.

Have in your arsenal a list of life-affirming phrases that lift your spirits and make you feel happier. For example:
“I’m getting better and better at dealing with difficulties”
"I like myself"
“There are many pleasant moments in my life,” etc.
Weigh your "I want" and "I am afraid".

It is most convenient to write them down on paper in 2 columns. Try to remember as many of your “want” and “fear” as possible. It will be good if the first are much more than the second. After all, the energy of desires always inspires us, makes us more confident, and the energy of fears slows down actions, forcing us to abandon our intentions.

How to be a happy wife

By creating a family, a woman always wants to become happy and loved. What helps to achieve this?

It is important to remain feminine, affectionate and attractive. Let your men feel like reliable protectors and knights next to you. This is a powerful incentive for self-realization.
Show concern and consideration for your husband. Smile, waiting for him to return from work, ask how his day went, give him the opportunity to fully rest, please with delicious food.
Maintain the man's self-esteem: praise him, acknowledge his achievements and abilities.
Do not be too demanding of your husband, do not control his every step. He needs to feel a certain degree of freedom and independence.
Maintain coziness and order at home, keep it clean, create comfortable conditions for family life, and take maximum care of children. A man is always in a hurry to return to a warm home.
Give your love, strive for physical intimacy, trust and respect him.

How to be a happy mom

For most of the fair sex, the question of how to become a happy woman is tantamount to the task of becoming a happy mother.

Feel the joy of every contact with your child: when he smiles at you, when you feed him, when you sing a lullaby and watch him fall asleep, when you play with him and just chat.
Allow yourself to rest and do personal business, because your child needs a lot of your attention and care. You need to restore your strength and be charged with positive energy. Don't forget about good sleep and your hobbies.
Love yourself and show your child self-confidence. This will allow you to be convinced that "I am a good mom and do everything right."
Be active and emotional while interacting and playing with your baby. The more pleasant emotions you experience with him, the higher your satisfaction with motherhood will be.
Try to trust your child at any age, encourage his initiative and respect his personality. He feels it and will treat you the same way.
Rejoice in the development of your child, notice the positive impact of your educational influence.
Be flexible when raising your baby, and listen to his needs and mood.
Visit cultural events with your children more often. Interest is provided for both you and them.
Children develop and change us for the better. Be open to this experience. They really have a lot to learn.

We summarize all of the above in the following lines:

Happiness adorns our lives

Sow its seeds in your soul,

And hurry up to give it to others.

All good things will come back - believe in it!

Video on how to become a happy woman.

Psychologist, family therapist, career coach. Member of the Federation of Consulting Psychologists of Russia and a member of the professional Guild of Psychotherapy and Training.

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